Hey just a (relatively) quick question or five (lol):
Does anyone else here ever find they don't allow themselves to relax, or have fun? I mean that as in that you notice that whenever you're having a "good day" you therefore raise your bar of expectations for yourself? Maybe that and/or you somehow feel you're "being bad" if you just enjoy yourself?
I'm finding this a lot. Like today... it's a good day. But I can't really relax because my internal "committee" keeps telling me all my "shoulds"... and because they're nattering away in the back of my mind I can't even enjoy what I am doing as I'm trying not to give in to the "shoulds" because I now disagree with those internalized voices?
Just looking for some companionship and understanding. AND - what can we do about this? Or even if it doesn't happen to you, do you have any ideas for me? How do I shake off the mantle of wanting "permission" and "approval" from others? I want to just be happy with myself and the choices I make from my heart. How do I do that?!?!
~ Aimmy
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Aimmy
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... LOL - I said it figuratively, but then my uptight side made me go back and count the questions... apparently my subconscious can't count LOL Aaaand there I am explaining every action again, every eventuality, and "protecting" myself from being "wrong". *sigh* |
ceejay
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... Hi Aimmy -- sometimes it just takes us breathing, relaxing and realizing that we're not perfect and we're not wrong.... and we're all grown up! This may sound overly simple, but it's NOT EASY!! :) |
inspired
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... Aimmy, I came to exactly the same conclusion for myself last week!! I don't understand how I went from always willing to go out and just have fun to being so mean to myself. It's almost like I stop myself from doing things I know I will enjoy - like I don't deserve to be happy. I am working hard to just let myself enjoy the things I like to do and stop thinking constantly about what I think I "should" be doing instead. All My Best, Norell |
Irish
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... Yep, you do have to reward yourself when you did a good job. As far as feeling ok, even good, for the day, smile and cherish the moment. It's always one day at a time. Cherish the good ones and TRY not to beat yourself up. Take care....Ed |
The 'ol insomnia again, huh?
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