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I Gave Up the Victim Mentality
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TOPIC: I Gave Up the Victim Mentality

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I Gave Up the Victim Mentality 6 Years, 9 Months ago  
Just wanted to share how refusing to see myself as a victim has really improved my thought life and helped me to enjoy the blessings God has given me so that I no longer see myself as defective or worthless or that nothing good happens to me. That constant pressure of being on guard in my relationships, afraid that people would see me in the negative light I saw myself in brought on much of the anxiety that I suffered with. I never realized how much the abuse I suffered in my childhood affected my mentality. Once I began paying attention to what I was telling myself and how I was behaving as a result, I saw immediately how having a victim mentality was distorting my vision and keeping me in a mental prison of negativity, self-doubt, and condemnation.

It has taken hard work and perserverance to break free of my firmly entrenched victim mentatlity. Staying in constant communication with God and trusting in what His Word has to say about me has helped me break free of negativity, self-loathing, and self-pity. In Ephesians alone, I am told that I am accepted, adopted, blessed, chosen, forgiven, loved, and redeemed. I am not that little girl who was despised and rejected so long ago.

Discovering who I am in Christ Jesus helped to shatter the old self-perception. I am still amazed that as I facilitate Bible studies at my church, I no longer obsess about being criticized or that I might say or do something that would cause the ladies in the group to reject me. I put my hope and trust in God and His leading before each session, and I have confidence.

Losing that old victim mentality helped neutralize many of the triggers of anxiety and panic in my life.
 
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Re:I Gave Up the Victim Mentality 6 Years, 9 Months ago  
Thank you for sharing. I also suffered from self-doubt and negativity based on a skewed view of others judging me. Thank you for sharing scripture references for us to read and study should we want or need to. I've found a great need recently and it's been helping . . . hugs
 
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Re:I Gave Up the Victim Mentality 6 Years, 9 Months ago  
So glad to hear you are being helped. Something that I try to keep in my mind at all times is that God is not against me but for me. He is not keeping track of my mistakes because as soon as I ask for forgiveness, He wipes the slate clean. He is keeping track of the times I believe Him and act accordingly and He credits my belief in Him, my faith, as righteousness. See Romans 4. He is not looking for perfection--hallelujah! He is looking for a heart that loves Him.
 
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Re:I Gave Up the Victim Mentality 6 Years, 6 Months ago  
Yeah I guess once you realize that you're the only one who can actually make a change, then all patterns of victimization and feeling inferior etc... become evident and easier to erase or work on. It can definitely change the course of things.
 
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Re:I Gave Up the Victim Mentality 6 Years, 6 Months ago  
Dude this is an awesome thread.
I agree with what you say because I believe that a victim mentality is a main cause in every sickness & worrying feeling in life.

once I started looking to be responsible for my life
I found new powers and started getting awesome results in the things i do.

keep up the spirit!
 
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Re:I Gave Up the Victim Mentality 6 Years, 6 Months ago  
Thank you so much for that enlightening post, 4Him. I never thought of my low self esteem and negativity as a "victim mentality" but it is! Maybe if I took my life by the horns and refused to let my fears get the best of me, I could enjoy life instead of being so negative and grumpy all the time.
 
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