Dear Kellybeth - 
 
This is exciting news!! As with so much of life it has it's downside too: all that angst around your dad. 
 
But I think it is time for you and Daniel to do your best to leave all that aside. You two have a lot to catch up with, you have some real fun and wonderful heart-time ahead of you!!  
 
This reminds me of a lot of the way I dealt with Panic and Anxiety -- sure, there was some fear, and some trepidation but every time I took that flight, or drove on that trip, or whatever I did to increase my horizons, to risk relationship and to deepen my involvement with the world I was ALWAYS glad I did it!! 
 
So, focus on you and your brother. Don't focus on your Dad! Just on what you two have! 
 
For what it's worth, my dad thought for his whole life that he was the oldest of 3 kids. When he was 55 he found out he had 1 older sister (out of wedlock) and 6 brothers and sisters by his fathers seventh wife!! (His dad had left when my dad was 10). So we had quite a time meeting and getting to know all these folks.  
 
Focusing on his Dad would have kept us all from enjoying the people that make up our family. 
 
Good luck - please do let us know how it all goes!!! 
 
Hugs, 
 
Cindy

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